I heard this from Steve Harvey the other day and it has stuck with me:
“When men are out there catching hell from the world, they don’t need to come home and catch hell from their wives.”
WOW! Yes indeed! Let me go ahead and recognize that, yes, there are some sorry excuses for men. And yes, not every man is taking care of their business at home. I’m not thinking about those men. I’m thinking about the men that WORK and COME HOME and put on their husband/daddy hats.
If your man is out there grinding, trying his best to make the necessary income to put food on the table, electricity in the home, clothing on your back, all the while catching hell from whomever, why on earth do we beat them down when they get home? Wives, you know what happens when you constantly beat down, berate, condescend, and undermined a man? He’ll slowly become the very thing that you are telling him he is. I’m pretty sure you didn’t marry a “sorry excuse for a man”, so why treat him like one?
Put the shoe on the other foot. Wife, how would you feel if you struggled all day at work and came home to constant chaos? No peace…just drama. How many “extra shifts” would you take on? How often would you just come home and go straight to bed? What encouraging words would you like to hear? What kind of atmosphere would you like to come home to?
I bet if you quit whining and complaining and nagging and started uplifting, encouraging, and respecting, you’ll start to see small changes and less push-back. I’m just sayen…
This is SO true! One thing that I have always heard from a decent man is, that they like to come home to a peaceful, nurturing, calm environment.